Letting go

Put your hands up if you are ready to let go of all those things that are keeping you down.

Put your hands up if you are ready to let go of all those things that are keeping you down.

"Never Let Go" is the title of a book by our friend Dan John. That title is ironic in that Dan broke his wrist at a lifting meet because he didn't let go of a snatch gone bad. Good advice is sometimes hard to follow.

This is not a post, however, about lifting safety. It's more about letting go of anything, everything in fact, in your life that is causing - or will cause you - harm or the wrong kind of discomfort. (Discomfort, well applied, leads to growth and that's a good thing. The wrong kind of discomfort is a topic for another post and, thankfully, is largely intuitive.) 

I'm talking about the kind of letting go that sets you free, that eliminates joyless activities, unnecessary labors and the angst that keeps you awake at night only to evaporate in the morning. The good news is that it's not that hard.

Most of the things that occupy our "free time" and excess mental capacity are of our own making and almost exclusively a load of crap. Worry is the great crippler. If you can do something about it, then do it! If you can't then it isn't worth worrying about. Stop it.

You don't have to do the doing. Delegating is a wonderful, amazing thing. I've recently started using Shipt, the grocery delivery app. Because, truth is, I get the same things every time I go to the store. It doesn't take a lot of imagination or creativity to fill the cart with meat and veggies, good quality fats, some fruit, little starch and no sugar (OK a little chocolate). If I'm not driving, parking, fighting the crowds at Publix, driving home and carrying stuff up 4 flights of stairs, it's time I can spend on something else. Anything else.

I've let go of the ownership of food shopping. I just don't care enough to do it myself. I'm more than content making it happen and attending to something else.

This principle can be applied to a million things, Autopay, cruise control, timers, all manner of delivery, calendar reminders, Uber, remote assistants like Fancy Hands and the mother of them all Amazon are all versions of the same idea. If you're consumed with busy work, if you're days are filled with doing stuff that somebody else can do instead then it's time. Way past time. Let go. Move on. Do the things that only you can do. Be a more active parent, a more productive artist, builder, creator, accountant, be better at whatever it is that makes you happy.

We need you. The best you. Not the doer of menial tasks. The you that loves what you're doing. 

(The post script to Dan's injury: while he was recovering he focused on 1 hand lifts and when he went back to barbell work his snatch was actually better (heavier, easier) than before he hurt himself. Letting go of something he'd "always done that way" opened the door to unexpected improvement.)